Here are five initial thoughts about our sexuality:
1) First, it’s Good!
2) Second, it’s from God!
3) Third, it’s Holy!
4) Forth, it’s Pure!
5) Fifth, it’s Purposeful!
Our Understanding of God’s Plan:
When we operate in God’s design we find our sexuality to be enjoyable, pure, delightful, special and purposeful!
When we’re outside His plan, we err, and it causes pain, displeasure, guilt, hurt and disease!
Sex within marriage is intended for both pleasure and procreation.
Sex before marriage is not God’s design. It’s called fornication.
Sex outside of marriage is also not God’s plan or law. It’s called adultery.
Our Understanding of Our Unique Design:
Understanding who we are and God’s plan for us helps us to enjoy what He’s created for beauty.
Not all men are the same, and not all women are the same. Some of us are gentle, and some harsh, some quiet and some loud. Some like refinement, and others like things less refined, and more casual.
Whoever you are, God knows your design and it is good! He fashioned you with much thought, care, and attention to detail.
When we don’t seem to match certain templates, we may question our maker, but He delights in our frame, and knows our name and sings over us with rejoicing!
Our Understanding of Our Temptation and Sin:
Erring in our sexuality is very serious, not only for God’s measures, but also for the law. It’s no joke when matters violate the law of God, or the law of the land.
Committing wrong sexual acts are very dangerous, and can impact an individual’s future and opportunities.
God has made a way for each of us to be saved and healed for a reason, because He loves us!
And we know we love Him too. And because we love Him, we will want to keep His Word, and honor Him with our actions and how we treat ourselves and others as well. As Christ’s followers, I know we care about that. And I’m glad.
Song of Solomon 8:4 says “do not stir up or awaken love before it is the right time” (until it can be pleased, in the right time, and in the right way, that is in a married, husband and wife way). Otherwise we are not to do anything, think on anything or look at or listen to anything that will awaken it or stir it up before it’s time. It’s a fire passion that is to be safeguarded for both marriage pleasure and procreation. Both planned by God.
We are to wait patiently for that right time. It will be worth it. And we will be very thankful and happy that we did!
Self control is something that we will always need, so we must practice it every day. We are to stay in the Word of God to keep our mind, actions and body pure, by the life and empowering of the Holy Spirit, as we will see in the next passage.
Keep your heart pure (Psalm 119:9-16, ESV, will tell you how), “How can a young man keep his way pure? By guarding it according to your Word,” Psalm 119:9, ESV.
2 Timothy 2:22 says “Flee youthful lusts, and pursue righteousness, faith, love and peace, with those who call on God with a pure heart.” The Lord can help us control our body, when we yield to the Holy Spirit, and say no to sin, and take every thought captive to bring it into obedience to Christ (re: 2 Corinthians 10:45).
We don’t want to have to suffer any negative consequences, and we want our brothers, and sisters in Christ to be blessed in their lives, and in their married sexuality, should they choose to marry, and to walk in sexual purity and rightness before God. And I know that we all can and will in the name of Jesus.
If you need to talk to someone about these things, reach out to the Lord, He is always listening. Consider also reaching out to a trusted individual that the Lord will guide you to!
Let’s live for God, and not for sensuality, but let’s be honest before Him and honor His plan and purposes for our lives and for our sexuality!
Much love and May the God of all strength bless you through and through!
